I’m not a crushy kind of girl (unless you count Sanada Hiroyuki). I don’t spot guys particularly often; most times I’m very myopic in my social interactions & don’t even notice the hottie standing right next to my friend. It’s mating nearsightedness.
However, if a girlfriend even expresses a mere visual interest in a present male, I then experience mating blindness. If one of my girls says a guy is cute, suddenly he’s invisible to me. I can’t see him. Or, I can see him just enough to avoid walking into him & that’s about it. I’m all for getting along with boyfriends/husbands of friends, but if there’s even a notion of one of my girlfriends giving chase to a free agent, in my eyes his availability is already forgotten – he’s hers, regardless of whether or not she actually catches him.
They don’t even have to be close girlfriends. They can be just casual girlfriends that I get a drink with from time to time. With all of these girlfriends, my ability to view a guy is immediately impaired if they express even mild interest in him.
I view this as loyalty. Also practicality. Also that random guys are not as important to me as friendships. Guys have “bros before hos;” I have… well, I have nothing that rhymes quite as well. You know what I mean though.